"confidence",what a word??

it really sounds insane when people say that you should be confident. I wonder what do they actually mean by this unanimous word. According to Mike Rogers,it doesn't exist.yes, this one sounds astounding and really flabbergasting for those who've been yearning in their whole lives to attain this non existent aspect. when we are indulged in procrastination, people call us "under-confident" and when we try to be flamboyant and little presumptuous, they look down upon us and call us "stupid". In either of the ways, we lose. There doesn't seem to be a panacea for this nerve racking fracas.To thwart this ammunition from the other side, we must be pro-active,that's the ability to take initiative and absolve ourselves from this malafide. Our heads get lopsided over and over whenever this question arises.Has anyone ever thought that great leaders,athletes and noble prize winners never ever thought about being confident.They are the Heroes because they went over the predicament and won it.Did they even think for once that "yes,we have to be confident"? so, i guess this question will keep on lambasting us in many tacit and rhetorical ways. Nevertheless we can do one thing, that is, we'll start taking initiative from the very next moment, we come to know of the malevolent truth. i would really like to thank Mike Rogers for elucidating and ascertaining the apparent meaning of this so called articulate word. It is primafacie now for me atleast and i'll not become culpable by this palpable mayhem...